Developing Consistent Lasting Character (see what we did there? DCLC :-)
Jon Gordon, an author of multiple best sellers and motivational speaker, is on a mission to educate people on how to develop positive relationships. If you read The Energy Bus, The Carpenter, or his coauthored book, One Word that Will Change Your Life, you are familiar with the one of the universal themes he uses in his writing- to uncover God's plan and purpose for your life.
In Colossians 3:23 (NKJV), Paul said, "And whatever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord and not to men." The key part of the verse "whatever you do" should not be taken lightly. We want to teach students that "whatever you do" means academic, extracurricular, enrichment, at school, or at home. We are showing children that they belong, they have a voice, and they are important. By focusing on motivation, we are guiding students towards creativity, academic risk taking, and a level of exploration that gives them the opportunity to feel accomplishment.
For 2020, I have a goal for my family and I would love if you join us. I want my kids to become more motivated and independent in 2020 than they were in 2019. The authors of the book mentioned earlier, One Word that Will Change Your Life, recently published a children's book, One Word For Kids: A Great Way to Have the Best Year Ever. The purpose of the book is to get kids to focus on one word for the year; a word that will help them to uncover God's plan and purpose for their life as they focus more on the world around them. The authors state, "To discover their one word, they must look inside themselves, look up, and look out.”
If your kids are... well.... kids I am sure you deal with a lot of the same issues that I do. Do you find yourself saying the same things over and over again? I don't think I should tell my kids everyday to hang up coats, read for 30 minutes, put their shoes in the bin, or put their dishes in the dishwasher.
This wears on me and I am sure it is wearing on you too. I love serving my family, but I need them to begin to look at their daily responsibilities as opportunities to serve. I am doing a disservice to their future if I continue to enable. In 2020, if you are a child in my house there will be no more reminders to fill up water bottles before basketball practice or to remember your snack.
To make this a family project in 2020, we read the children's book and brainstormed a list of words so we can pick our "One Word" for 2020. Again, our family focus is independence, responsibility, and motivation because we want to help our girls understand that a person's character should never change, no matter their location.
I want my girls to have grit. I want them to fail and get back up. I want them to learn that there are consequences for their words and actions. I will continue to tell them that I love them unconditionally and that they are not their negative words or actions. I want them to learn that we are going to mess up a lot this year, but we are going to learn from our mistakes and keep moving.
We were created to make mistakes, repent, change, and grow. As parents, we need to embrace the wonderful responsibility of leading our children into developing their character. Through modeling, teaching, and striving to live with love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control, we are helping to make the world a better place.
Raising the bar is going to be hard. My girls are going to be resistant. I am going to be resistant. I am going to want to give up and give in. I owe it to them to raise the bar. If I don't raise the bar at home, I am lowering the bar on the possibilities.
Please know that we will continue to set a high bar at DCLC as we learn and grow together as a school family. Will you join us on this 2020 journey?
To learn more about Jon Gordon visit http://jongordon.com/books/one-word/